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1a. Re: falling back into old habits...help!!
From: Norma . Walczak
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From: Kelly
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1a. Re: falling back into old habits...help!!
Posted by: "Norma . Walczak" izzscruff2@yahoo.com izzscruff2
Date: Wed Jun 10, 2009 6:26 pm ((PDT))
Trudy,
Sorry it took so long to get back to you. I have a strange work schedule- Tuesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday from 1:30pm to midnight.
I am 57 years old with 4 kids and 12 grandchildren. I was divorced for 23 years then got married 5 1/2 years ago. Andy was not all for my surgery, and now really shows how he feels that I did it. I went from a 30/32 to a 14/16 and have not been this size since 7th grade which is 45 years ago. Unfortunatly, this has put a strain on my marriage, but I have put it in God's hands. My kids are all with me on making myself more healthy.
Some of the things that you talked about sounds too familiar. You can write me directly anytime you want and we can try to work together on this. I do wish you luck on this great journey.
Norma Walczak
izzscruff2@yahoo.com
--- On Mon, 6/8/09, Trudy Jensen <trudybjensen@yahoo.com> wrote:
From: Trudy Jensen <trudybjensen@yahoo.com>
Subject: Re: [After Weight Loss Surgery] falling back into old habits...help!!
To: afterweightlosssurgery@yahoogroups.com
Date: Monday, June 8, 2009, 9:43 PM
thank you for sharing some of your story with me. I do need to find someone to talk to, I thought I was at a place where I was pretty happy with my loss, I had gone from about 240 to 150 and I am down to a size 6-8, smaller than I have ever been that I can remember. I think part of the problem is that I started dating again about 7 months ago and I think that I am way more into our relationship than he is and it has made me start to question how he sees me... a lot of how I got to where I was is due to bad relationships which is extremely hard on ones self esteem. I don't have a good history of relationships, I am pretty much an introvert and don't put myself out there and at 54 years old I feel that my life is passing me by. I am not much of a joiner and don't have a lot of single friends so that just makes things that much harder. When I read what I just said, I question if I just have a way of making excuses. Maybe it is time for me to
put it out there, join a gym, focus on me and feeling good about me as a person and find someone who is accepting of me and put my wants and needs top of the list and not be so accomodating. I know there has to be good men out there who want to be in a relationship, for the long haul, through the good times and bad, who are accepting of my 27 year old daughter who can't seem to get her life in order, someone who will be a good grandfather role model for my grandchildren. I don't believe that I was put here to be alone. It isn't that I am not comfortable with my own company, I have been alone the majority of my life, but it would just be so much more fun if here was someone to share it with.
Tell me about you, do you have kids? Are you married? Where do you live? I live in Omaha, NE, I am a mortgage underwriter and work entirely too many hours but it is a good job, a challenging job and I get to help people realize their dreams of owning a home which makes me feel good. I have four grandchildren, three who are part of my day to day life, one who was placed for adoption when she was born who I only get to see once or twice a year and occassionally get photos of. But she is in a good loving home, she is happy and she will be starting kindergarden in the fall. I have a granddaughter who will be 8 in July, a granddaughter who will be four in June and my grandson who just turned two in February. I come from a large family, I am the 2nd oldest with six sisters and one brother, who is the youngest. My father is still with us, he will be 82 in October, we lost my mother in November 2002 after she had been hospitalized for ulcerative
colitus.
Thanks again for your time, I appreciate it.
Trudy
--- On Mon, 6/8/09, Norma . Walczak <izzscruff2@yahoo. com> wrote:
From: Norma . Walczak <izzscruff2@yahoo. com>
Subject: Re: [After Weight Loss Surgery] falling back into old habits...help! !
To: afterweightlosssurg ery@yahoogroups. com
Date: Monday, June 8, 2009, 7:59 PM
I too did not have a good support system. I did do a little over a year of seeing a therapist and it really did help. I had to come to grips with why I was so heavy in the first place. There are times that I do slip, but I have to sit back and think about why I did slip and not beat myself up over it. We are all human and do make mistakes. But you have to think about it and realize why you slipped then work at getting back on track. This Saturday is my third anniversary of my RNY. I have lost 135# and happy. I was not realistic with what I wanted to lose as I look ok and feel fine at 190. No, it is not perfect, but I have not been this weight since I was 12 years old and no one is still use to seeing me this "thin". Lots of luck and ask you sugeon to recomend someone for you to talk to.
Norma
--- On Mon, 6/8/09, Trudy Jensen <trudybjensen@ yahoo.com> wrote:
From: Trudy Jensen <trudybjensen@ yahoo.com>
Subject: [After Weight Loss Surgery] falling back into old habits...help! !
To: afterweightlosssurg ery@yahoogroups. com
Date: Monday, June 8, 2009, 5:11 PM
I am about a year and a half out of my Roux-en-Y gastric bypass surgery and in the past few months I have found myself falling back into old habits of binge eating and eating the wrong things. I have not had the feeling of being stuffed or over full since I had the surgery. I have not had a good support system so I am trying to reach out to others who may have had some of these same issues. Any words of wisdom or support would be greatly appreciated.
thank you for your time.
Trudy
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1b. Re: falling back into old habits...help!!
Posted by: "Kelly" kdies@verizon.net kellone2
Date: Wed Jun 10, 2009 6:33 pm ((PDT))
I emailed you personally too trudy
i was wondering if you had gotten it?
Kelly
----- Original Message -----
From: Norma . Walczak
To: afterweightlosssurgery@yahoogroups.com
Sent: Wednesday, June 10, 2009 9:26 PM
Subject: Re: [After Weight Loss Surgery] falling back into old habits...help!!
Trudy,
Sorry it took so long to get back to you. I have a strange work schedule- Tuesday, Thursday, Friday and Saturday from 1:30pm to midnight.
I am 57 years old with 4 kids and 12 grandchildren. I was divorced for 23 years then got married 5 1/2 years ago. Andy was not all for my surgery, and now really shows how he feels that I did it. I went from a 30/32 to a 14/16 and have not been this size since 7th grade which is 45 years ago. Unfortunatly, this has put a strain on my marriage, but I have put it in God's hands. My kids are all with me on making myself more healthy.
Some of the things that you talked about sounds too familiar. You can write me directly anytime you want and we can try to work together on this. I do wish you luck on this great journey.
Norma Walczak
izzscruff2@yahoo.com
--- On Mon, 6/8/09, Trudy Jensen <trudybjensen@yahoo.com> wrote:
From: Trudy Jensen <trudybjensen@yahoo.com>
Subject: Re: [After Weight Loss Surgery] falling back into old habits...help!!
To: afterweightlosssurgery@yahoogroups.com
Date: Monday, June 8, 2009, 9:43 PM
thank you for sharing some of your story with me. I do need to find someone to talk to, I thought I was at a place where I was pretty happy with my loss, I had gone from about 240 to 150 and I am down to a size 6-8, smaller than I have ever been that I can remember. I think part of the problem is that I started dating again about 7 months ago and I think that I am way more into our relationship than he is and it has made me start to question how he sees me... a lot of how I got to where I was is due to bad relationships which is extremely hard on ones self esteem. I don't have a good history of relationships, I am pretty much an introvert and don't put myself out there and at 54 years old I feel that my life is passing me by. I am not much of a joiner and don't have a lot of single friends so that just makes things that much harder. When I read what I just said, I question if I just have a way of making excuses. Maybe it is time for me to
put it out there, join a gym, focus on me and feeling good about me as a person and find someone who is accepting of me and put my wants and needs top of the list and not be so accomodating. I know there has to be good men out there who want to be in a relationship, for the long haul, through the good times and bad, who are accepting of my 27 year old daughter who can't seem to get her life in order, someone who will be a good grandfather role model for my grandchildren. I don't believe that I was put here to be alone. It isn't that I am not comfortable with my own company, I have been alone the majority of my life, but it would just be so much more fun if here was someone to share it with.
Tell me about you, do you have kids? Are you married? Where do you live? I live in Omaha, NE, I am a mortgage underwriter and work entirely too many hours but it is a good job, a challenging job and I get to help people realize their dreams of owning a home which makes me feel good. I have four grandchildren, three who are part of my day to day life, one who was placed for adoption when she was born who I only get to see once or twice a year and occassionally get photos of. But she is in a good loving home, she is happy and she will be starting kindergarden in the fall. I have a granddaughter who will be 8 in July, a granddaughter who will be four in June and my grandson who just turned two in February. I come from a large family, I am the 2nd oldest with six sisters and one brother, who is the youngest. My father is still with us, he will be 82 in October, we lost my mother in November 2002 after she had been hospitalized for ulcerative
colitus.
Thanks again for your time, I appreciate it.
Trudy
--- On Mon, 6/8/09, Norma . Walczak <izzscruff2@yahoo. com> wrote:
From: Norma . Walczak <izzscruff2@yahoo. com>
Subject: Re: [After Weight Loss Surgery] falling back into old habits...help! !
To: afterweightlosssurg ery@yahoogroups. com
Date: Monday, June 8, 2009, 7:59 PM
I too did not have a good support system. I did do a little over a year of seeing a therapist and it really did help. I had to come to grips with why I was so heavy in the first place. There are times that I do slip, but I have to sit back and think about why I did slip and not beat myself up over it. We are all human and do make mistakes. But you have to think about it and realize why you slipped then work at getting back on track. This Saturday is my third anniversary of my RNY. I have lost 135# and happy. I was not realistic with what I wanted to lose as I look ok and feel fine at 190. No, it is not perfect, but I have not been this weight since I was 12 years old and no one is still use to seeing me this "thin". Lots of luck and ask you sugeon to recomend someone for you to talk to.
Norma
--- On Mon, 6/8/09, Trudy Jensen <trudybjensen@ yahoo.com> wrote:
From: Trudy Jensen <trudybjensen@ yahoo.com>
Subject: [After Weight Loss Surgery] falling back into old habits...help! !
To: afterweightlosssurg ery@yahoogroups. com
Date: Monday, June 8, 2009, 5:11 PM
I am about a year and a half out of my Roux-en-Y gastric bypass surgery and in the past few months I have found myself falling back into old habits of binge eating and eating the wrong things. I have not had the feeling of being stuffed or over full since I had the surgery. I have not had a good support system so I am trying to reach out to others who may have had some of these same issues. Any words of wisdom or support would be greatly appreciated.
thank you for your time.
Trudy
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